Say Cheese NOW: To all the Mom’s who’ve ever said, “When I lose (X) lbs.”

Have you ever said to yourself we’ll do family photos when I lose (fill in the blank) pounds? I’ll take more pictures with the kids once I’ve lost some weight; once I look better and feel better. I don’t want to be in the picture. I hate having my picture taken. I hate photos of myself. OMG do not record me.

Please leave a comment & let me know if you’ve ever said any form of the above.

It’s hard to accept that there are lessons in grief, but the reality is there are many. Grief teaches us; it changes our perspectives and our beliefs. Losing Braedon has changed me in ways that I can’t even describe. I’m learning many lessons, and this is one that continues to be tough with each passing day.

Tears are streaming down my face as I type this important message today because this was me; I was that girl! My husband, Braedon and I only ever had professional photos taken together once and that was at our wedding in 2015. Aside from that Braedon and I had our photos taken together professionally only one other time; EVER! I would always tell myself we’ll get them taken on the next occasion after I’ve lost some weight, after I felt better. It seemed I was always battling my weight, so those family pictures kept getting postponed to some unknown future pic

In the one and only video recording that exists with both Braedon and I on screen; you can hear me getting annoyed that I was being recorded. It breaks my heart that I was captured on video saying, “I don’t like having my picture taken I definitely don’t want to be recorded.” I cringe now when I play it and see my sweet boy laughing and trying to get me to smile for the video. It’s like punch right through my heart.

I can never go back and capture those moments. I can never laugh and smile with Braedon in that video. We can’t take those family photos that I postponed time and time again. Those moments can never be captured.

If you were one of the people who said yes to any of the above statements, please take it from a mom who will never get the opportunity back and smile already. Say cheese and capture those precious memories with your family. Just because you are not at the weight you want to be doesn’t mean you and your memories aren’t worthy. Your family, your friends and most importantly your children love you just the way you are. I hope to God that you never have to experience the loss of a child. I also hope that going forward you will decide to show up as you are and step into the fear of being seen. Smile for that camera because the opportunity to do so can be gone in the blink of an eye.

Leave a comment below and tell me if you’re going to commit to being seen as you are, TODAY!


~Love & accept yourself as you are today; even if you want to lose weight or make other changes in your life.

~ “You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously.” Sophia Bush

~ “Your weight is the least interesting thing about you.” ~ Community Member SimplySYLISH Ladies

2 thoughts on “Say Cheese NOW: To all the Mom’s who’ve ever said, “When I lose (X) lbs.”

  1. Alisha Carver says:

    Tiffany, thank you for this reminder. I am also guilty of this. More so of being judged for being pleasantly plump per say. You’re right! Our kids don’t see our weight they see us with love and no judgement. I need to start taking more pictures with them. 😚


    • Tiffany Agnew says:

      You are absolutely right Alisha! They don’t see that. They just see their mom who they love. Please start taking more pictures right away ❤ You and your memories are worthy of being captured in time!


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